You CAN Find (and Focus on) the Positive in Every Situation!

Even though we have control over our own actions and perceptions of what people do to us, we do not have control over the outside/external influences in the world that may come to affect us. But, it is our responsibility to ‘train’ others in how they are to interact with us.

Yes! It can really be done….

Remember when I said that no one can damage our self-esteem unless we allow them to do so? We do not have control over other people, but we always have control over our perception to what they say or do to us. This does take courage to “create” the sort of environment needed to honor your values and make life work optimally for you. All too often, we tend to tolerate negative situations and unhealthy individuals. It takes massive courage to stand up to abusive or negative influences. Other times, we might fear the repercussions of taking affirmative action to deal with challenging situations. And at times, we feel resigned to the status quoted, not knowing how to extricate ourselves from a bad environment or how to proceed to get assistance to move forward.

But….if you learn to be assertive with your life, and what’s important to you, you will be well-served. And, this starts with the knowing belief that you deserve to be happy, and live a life filled with loving relationships with family and friends who “have your back” and vice versa, who choose to see the best version of yourself in supporting you 100% with your endeavors. If you learn to ‘train your brain’ in first and foremost seeing yourself in your best version (in your mind’s eye), meaning positive, confident and sure-footed in whatever situation presents itself to you, and expect success…..that vibration or energy will trickle out into the universe, and that is what your family and friends will see in you. Plus, this high energetic vibration will only attract like-minded people into your life. Pretty cool, right?!

It really is like a magnet…..what you think about, you bring about. What you focus on, expands out into the universe….and, brings back to you similar circumstances. Just like that…..it really is that simple, don’t over-think the semantics by complicating the concept. Once you ‘get’ this, and start to fully be aware of the power of your belief, have fun with it!

Go on…..create the life you want to live! *smile*

We all want to be happy! In spite of this want, suffering is often the norm. Suffering is based on desire. When we want something we don’t have or have something we don’t want – we suffer. But….suffering is most often an optional choice – that is, you need not suffer if you learn to manage your thoughts deliberately. The path to happiness and to avoiding suffering is non-attachment. Non-attachment can coexist harmoniously with commitment.

Envision your goals, play full out for them, and then don’t be attached to the process. Attachment creates desperation and needless suffering. Learning to let go, while knowing that there is good in all experiences will support you to be okay with and even enjoy the learning process, even when it can be difficult or challenging.

Learn to find joy in the daily process of life. Far too often, many struggle through life, dreading work and hoping for the day when some event will take place to restore joy to their lives. For some, that event is going to school, or graduating from school. For some, it is moving away from home, for others returning home. For some, it is getting married and for others, getting divorced. For some, it is the day they land their dream job, for others it is the day they retire. Too many are convinced that some future condition or event must take place in order for them to find happiness. In the meantime, they dread their daily mundane existence, not knowing they have the ability to live NOW by choice and manifest their best life today!

If this has been your mindset, CHANGE IT NOW!

You will be best supported to understand that happiness is a choice, just as struggle and suffering are choices as well. We all have the ability to live daily in choice or in the case where we find that we are unhappy, decide to choose differently. Failing to do so means avoiding responsibility for making one’s life work optimally and selecting a path that ensures happiness. The choices that you make will dictate the results that materialize into your life.

Did you hear that? I will repeat: The choices that you make will dictate the results that materialize into your life.  Let that statement sink in!

The expectations that you have – to be happy or sad, wealthy or impoverished, surrounded by warm, loving relationships or in constant emotional turmoil – will dictate what you attract into your life. Once you realize this, and become more aware of your thoughts, you will become empowered to live your life more deliberately! By accepting “response – ability”, your ability to choose your response to ALL situations – you will possess the “secret” to attracting a life marked by happiness, rewarding relationships, abundance and fulfillment!

Every single situation offers you the choice to stay “stuck in the muck”, or move forward powerfully with focused, effective actions. When you can realize this, you will be motivated to create empowering interpretations of just about every circumstance or situation that you encounter. You will possess a quite valuable tool to facilitate living life upset-free and reaction-free. When you can understand that each potential upsetting situation, need not suck you into an emotional vortex of anger, sadness or fear, you will realize that you possess the power to respond to any provocation in a way that best supports you. When you fully realize the power of non-attachment, that no one can compel you to react and lose your Personal Power, you will learn to make wise choices that support your happiness, health, relationships, and communication effectiveness.

The realization that life need not be dominated by struggle, continual upset and conflict will support you to maximize your happiness, charisma, effectiveness in communication, and the ability to produce successful outcomes with results of ever-increasing self-esteem.

You DO have the power to actually create your reality…..and that, in my humble opinion, is pretty cool!