People who possess high self-esteem have Personal Power – the ability to produce an intended result with velocity. Velocity is giving your intention/manifestation massive speed or momentum…which means your intended results will manifest with “lightening” speed! You are “sure-footed” in the results you want to manifest, with NO doubt about it! You have the ability to envision a goal or accomplishment and know that you can manifest it deliberately with visualization. [Stay tuned for another blog specifically about visualization.] You have an ‘air’ of competence, in control of your life and expect success!
People with Personal Power have self-motivation essential to bring about their vision with purpose. They have control over their destinies, rather than be at the affect of the whims of others and random assaults. When a child develops this ability to be in control of his response to any provocation, no one can intimidate him, press his buttons, or provoke regrettable actions –
This feeling is very liberating, you now possess Personal Power!
Ego-driven people only focus on “what’s in it for me”, have a selfish preoccupation for only themselves, and fail to consider the importance of mutuality and respect for the rights and needs of others. By developing a sense of empathy for others, it will help in considering what it may be like in the shoes of someone coming from ego-driven traits.
It’s important to know that ego-driven people are not born that way; because of dysfunction or unfortunate circumstances along their life path, this is their way of dealing with it and becomes their perspective of how they see the world. By taking on a willingness to consider what it might be like for another to say or do the things they do that may hurt or anger you, it will help you to not react by default and take offense to it. This ability to understand the motivation behind hurtful or inappropriate behavior can remove any personal offense taken in response to the words or deeds of others.
You are not condoning their behavior, but by trying to step into their shoes will help tremendously in letting go of taking things personally, knowing that these behaviors are about the person committing them, not the apparent target of their aggressions or hurtful words or actions. This knowledge prevents the need to react to perceived attacks, removes the interpretation that others are doing things to you, and allows you to give up your right to be invalidated by another.
High overall self-esteem means being competent and capable of producing an intended result in every area of your life. This includes respecting the needs and rights of others, being effective in relationships and communication with others, with an appreciation for what it is like in their world.
Unlike those who are ego-driven, high self-esteem people respect others, rather than focus on just what is in it for them. All too often, people mistakenly confuse high ego for high self-esteem.
When you know the difference, and learn to be more empathetic, you will begin to better deal with bullies, egomaniacs and those who seek to dominate and control others through force and intimidation.
This is possessing Personal Power!
As a result, this will assist you to be maximally effective in your communications. This wisdom will translate into an ever-increasing level of personal effectiveness and self-confidence in your ability to deal with any challenging situation.